Auntie Says, Faye Arcand, Faye E. Arcand

What is the Role of an Auntie in the Family? Well, Let’s Chat.

What’s an Auntie and Who Needs One?

An Aunties doesn’t have to be family member. It can be anyone who has the best interest of a younger person in mind, supports them emotionally when needed, and acts as an educated and experienced bridge between the parents and youngster/teen/adult.

Traditionally, an Auntie is a sister (or sister in law) of either the mother or father of the younger person in question. They hold similar family values, but they don’t have to do the boring day to day parenting or disciplining.

An Auntie is someone who can, and will, listen, step in, and assist in the communications and issues involving the younger person. Always remember, if you can’t ask Mom or Dad, you can always ask Auntie.

What is the Auntie Says… Blog all About?

Auntie Says… Pic by Faye E. Arcand.

I became an auntie at the ripe old age of four and now have 47 nieces and nephews. I’ve foraged out and experienced relationships with young people for many years and don’t shy away from difficult discussions. I don’t hesitate to ask the hard questions, tell it like I see it, or assist in finding a solution.

Auntie Says…is about the exploration of everyday issues, a controversial topic, or the proverbial elephant in the room.

To see young people floundering without direction, or a dose of common sense, can drive me crazy because I see their potential and the situational temporariness of their angst.

Auntie Says… Sometimes Everyone Needs a Dose of Common Sense.

More Auntie Says… Advice. Smart Lady. Picture by Faye E. Arcand

I want to encourage them to move forward and strive for their best.

I was lucky, I had people in my corner when I was growing up.

My first, and most influential, teachers in life were my three older sisters. Being the youngest girl, they’d sit me down and tell me about their boyfriends, their dreams, or teach me the ropes about how to be a smart, strong girl.

The relationships with my sisters were really indicative of the auntie/niece relationship as they all mentored me in their own right.

It was the confidence and love instilled from them that allowed me to grow into the auntie that I am today.

Auntie Says… Encouragement and Positivity are Huge Factors in Life

You can always ask Auntie. She’s never very far away. Picture by Faye E. Arcand.

I’m the cool auntie. I’m also the common sense— what the heck are you doing?— auntie. I’ve always jumped in with both feet to chat about the world, and how it’s affecting their lives and relationships.

I believe we have the power within us to learn our lessons and make the choices that are right for all involved.

You may ask why any of this matters—can’t I just ask my parents for advice? or how about my best friend?

My answer is a resounding…Yes. Yes. Yes. Ask the questions. Seek out the answers.

That’s the whole point. Issues need to be discussed, but sometimes parents and friends can only take you so far.

Sometimes You Need to Ask for Advice and Who Better Than Auntie?

Good stuff. Don’t ever doubt it. Auntie is a Smart Cookie! Picture by Faye E. Arcand.

There are pivotal times in life when you may need someone, other than a parent or peer, to talk to.

You may find this in a teacher, or pastor. Sometimes their roles may be limited by professional restrictions, but they’ll be able to point you in the right direction.

To have a mentor that doesn’t judge, doesn’t tattle, doesn’t put you down, has such far-reaching positive affects in life, and really is a gift.

I had this with my sisters, and with my many nieces and nephews, and now I want to share my wisdom, common sense, and no-nonsense advice with you.

Auntie Says… is Willing to Look at the Difficult Stuff.

Auntie Says…is not about sugar coating the issues or placating the masses, it’s about reality.

I may not be everyones cup of tea and you may disagree with me, and that’s okay because it means some critical thinking and discussion can occur.

I want to look at love, finances, mental health, and other everyday issues you’re facing…from the perspective of an auntie, someone who cares and really wants the best for you.

Why Do I Need an Auntie?

It’s been said that life happens when you’re not watching…I see many young people whose worlds are spinning so fast with commitments and expectations that perspective of priority is lost.

This hampers not only direction, but motivation as well. Let’s look at the topics facing young people that somehow seem to slip by without much notice.

I’ll be here.

Here’s a few of my nieces and nephews. There’s a whole bunch missing and let’s not forget the ones who adopted Auntie as their own.

*Original Post May, 2017. Amended for this pulication.


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4 thoughts on “What is the Role of an Auntie in the Family? Well, Let’s Chat.”

  1. That’s a lot of nieces and nephews!! I thought I had a lot at 13 lol. Auntie role is a very important one in a family, I totally agree!

    1. Hi Michele. Yes. Huge family and lots of nieces and nephews. Such a true blessing. I love being Auntie. ❤️ Thanks so much for stopping by. So appreciated. 😊 Happy Holidays!

  2. I remember my Auntie, as we played together. She was a romantic by nature I remember I asked her what hell was like and she discussed with me Daunte’s Inferno I was four and remember it still we were only 12 years apart, but she never made me feel those twelve years until she had a baby of her own. She’s gone now but your right Aunties have the job of seeing that you make it through unskathed and when you do get knocked down they are there to pick you up. I’m glad you gave me a chance to think about Aunties tonight.

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