I didn’t know it but I’d been the target of a group of bullies dressed in chiffon and ribbons. I did however feel the shame and humiliation. I can still feel it today as I feel their eyes looking me up and down--judging.
Don't arrive reeking of pot or alcohol. It's a real turn off. Don't assume that you can just light up in the back yard and think that others won't be offended. If you're a smoker--tobacco, vape, or weed--ask the host/hostess where you should smoke BEFORE lighting up.